Is the love for one\'s cat different in America than in England?

Janet WestJanet West StroudMember Posts: 2,239
edited 6 June, 2008 in Other Meows & Purrs
Hi, Tambolina here....... This interests me........obviously the love is the same in terms of taking them to the vet if ill, stroking, kissing and loving them.....but it interested me that (re: William - Esther's compatriot - see 'Kitties with bad kidneys') someone talked about his being given 'the love to take with him' if he has to go, and I talked about giving him the space to 'do what he has to do before the end'....... What is the difference? I have some ideas, but would be very interested to hear what others have to say first....... Many kisses Tambolina

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  • Annalisa Conserti-JonesAnnalisa Conserti-Jones Member Posts: 5,234
    edited 30 May, 2008
    I think you're letting socio-linguistic differences convince you that there is a difference in how people "love" their cats, when really if there is any difference, that difference is from person to person. Let's pretend for the sake of argument that you only feed, water and clear the cat box, take them to the vet when they're sick, and not much else. To some people that is all you require to be loving to a cat. But to some of us, it would be unthinkable not to offer our cats playtime, affection (whether on demand or not), and yes, even in home nursing care. Now going back to the responses you mentioned, I think they both said the same thing: make the cat comfortable with their remaining days. That ultimately means that the owner and the cat figure out what is best for the cat.
  • Tanya MundyTanya Mundy boulderMember Posts: 763
    edited 30 May, 2008
    I don't think anyone knows what to say to people who are facing the loss of a pet (or a dying relative, ect) when you know that this person has to choose the time and place. In some ways, the selfish part of me just wanted a car to hit my cat, and i'd cry and it would be over. But to say to the vet "now is the time" killed me. I strugged for days to say "is it really time" (and many people here disagreed with me, many agreed with me... it's never like the pet says Ok, it's time). Then, after, i had all this guilt.. "what if it wasn't really her time? Could I have done more? What if she had another day, week, month of her life left". The best we can do for others in this time of need, is try to support them in whatever decision they make (unless we fell it is grossly inappropriate, like letting a cat that is houling in pain, live or something). And then offer our love. we all love our pets. and i don't really think any of it is different, just expressed differntly. I hear that for dogs, you should NOT spoil them like you do with cats (as an example), and i'd feel like such a bad doggy parent cause i hate disclipine and being strict. MOL.
  • Janet WestJanet West StroudMember Posts: 2,239
    edited 31 May, 2008
    Hi, it's me again.... Tambolina Me and my human person have thought a bit more about this question......the thing is that we are intensely curious about, and interested in, you all - you seem foreign and exotic to us.....but actually, society is so multi-cultural nowadays that it is difficult, if not impossible to talk about national characteristics, so I guess you are right that it does just vary from person to person..... Many kisses Tambolina
  • Faye DufourFaye Dufour Destrehan, LA/New Orleans areaMember Posts: 4,648
    edited 31 May, 2008
    Meowlo Tambolina: Interesting post......part of this "difference" might be that Americans are very vocal in their love of their pets, and that can be seen in the diverse companies who sell pet food, toys, clothing, etc. Where else are there strollers for cats and dogs?? And lines of clothing for dogs and cats?? America is such a varied group of people, and New Orleans (and the surrounding area), where we live is different from any other American city. Hurricane Katrina changed much of the city and its suburbs, because before the storm it was not at all unusual to have 10-12 homes within a 2-3 block radius owned by members of an extended family. The parents in their home, and their children and grandchildren near them.....in the same neighborhood. In our meowmy's case, before Hurricane Katrina, she had 15 different cousins living in the same area....now all have relocated. In our house, it is just meowmy and us.....so naturally we are family much more than pets. But even in families where there are two parents and children, the pets are an important part of the family....as you have seen from CATSTER. The CATSTER and DOGSTER communities just bring together people who care for their animals and do all they can to make their lives happy. I know some people would call our meowmy a "Crazy Cat Lady", but she says there are much worse things to be called. MOL, MOL..... Enjoyed your post, it gave us all something to think about.....and no matter what the differences are in our meowmies and daddiesk, they are all united in the love of their pets and concern for their health and well being. Enjoy your weekend!!! Emma Barrett, Louis Armstrong, Benny Grunch & Pete Fountain P.S. My brother Benny Grunch thinks you are a very pretty lady cat........are you seeing any other boy cats at this time? If not, he would like to know if he might take you to the Sea Ship Restaurant for dinner one night? He is a little shy.....so I had to ask for him....
  • terri echolsterri echols kalamazooMember Posts: 4,758
    edited 5 June, 2008
    i don\'t think it\'s a silly question at all...i just don\'t know if, as emma (i think that was the New Orleans kitty that wrote) said, america has a singular enough nature for you to get a meaningful answer. i mean, have you visited our political blogsites lately? you\'d wonder if we were the same species, much less the same culture!:)) but it is probably, as someone said, more a person to person difference in terms of how we relate to our cats...with a national difference in terms of how it is expressed in the language. i think you were both-in the references to love and space-coming from the same place, which was honor and respect for the cat as their own separate being with feelings and needs unique to themselves. does that help?
  • Nuk AnukNuk Anuk Member Posts: 846
    edited 6 June, 2008
    Here I come late, and everycat before me has already said it so well. I think there is no neat and national way to box up this issue. What I think matters most, is the cat's own natural disposition and the giving to each particular cat, that what he/she is asking for. Considering the 3 very distinct (and different from each other) personalities we have here in my home. Each would require a slightly differing approach. An *aloof* personality may require the space to "do what they have to do" or may turn more *cuddly* seeking affectionate reassurances at that time or vice versa for the cuddly types. The truest answer to your question Tambolina, comes from knowing the particular cat, and watching his/her body language for the clues to what they are seeking at the end of their lives. "To each cat - according to his/her own needs"
  • terri echolsterri echols kalamazooMember Posts: 4,758
    edited 6 June, 2008
    \"and from them according to their abilities\" oh, shrunken tiger, are you a socialist-kitty? or are we veering into politics, which is catster-verboten?:D
  • terri echolsterri echols kalamazooMember Posts: 4,758
    edited 6 June, 2008
    oops-anuk\'s motto is now \"brusselfish beware\"...for those of you i just confused, it was anuk i was/am addressing in the above post, since his motto used to be \"shrunken tiger?\"...unless of course that\'s some other kitty, which means i\'m the one who\'s confused...which wouldn\'t exactly be a new thing.
  • Nuk AnukNuk Anuk Member Posts: 846
    edited 6 June, 2008
    Kaya is right, My foums motto was "Shrunken Tiger" until I wrote about that Elusive Brusselfish. Then I decided that I better put that 'Brusselfish' on alert and tell it to beware. Any Catster who knows me, knows that I'm a very legislative/lobby driven cat, although I will never discuss or advocate any political position. I'm more interested in connecting kitties with the resources they need or can use, to effect legislative change in their communities. Kaya is a smart kitty though! She knows the original from where I twisted the ending of my last post. The *twist* seemed to fit the present discussion about each cat's individual needs determining how he/she is "loved" at the ends of their lives. I also made it *twist* so that it would not be "politically obvious" or be the inference of endorse on any specific body politic.
  • Valerie DurhamValerie Durham Member Posts: 8,724
    edited 6 June, 2008
    Wow! Deep! =D>
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