I'm at the end of my rope. My 14-year-old cat Maggie is battling a Feline Herpes-caused upper respiratory infection. It was very bad for about a week, with a lot of sneezing and very inflamed, swollen, and runny eyes. The vet gave her a Convenia shot, and I was sort of able to give her eye drops. The veterinary ophthlalmologist prescribed famciclovir (anti-viral) medication for the underlying virus and L-Lysine to build her immune system.
She is also taking methimazole for hyperthyroid and prednisolone for IBD, but I have those as a transdermal gel and she is fine with having this in her ears.
I cannot administer medication to this cat in any form. I cannot pill her. She won't touch food with anything crushed into it. I got the famciclovir in chicken-flavored oil suspension from the compounding pharmacy and she fights me like a banshee when I try to give her the oral syringe. She won't touch food with that in it either. She has already lost 2 pounds because she won't eat. I was able to get a half-pill in her ONCE with cream cheese, but after that she learned to look for the pill in the cream cheese and now she eats the cheese and spits out the pill.
The vet also wants her on L-Lysine. I tried mixing the contents of capsules with her food and she wouldn't eat it. I bought L-Lysine treats but she won't eat them. I finally found L-Lysine in a maple-flavored gel and she wouldn't touch it, but it looks like she might take it in a bit of cream. (Yes, I know dairy is not good for cats.)
I have tried Rescue Remedy. I have tried giving Rescue Remedy to myself. I have tried scruffing. I have tried putting her between my knees and approaching from the back. I have tried towel-wrapping her but she is always away to struggle free. She is strong as an ox when it comes to wriggling away even in her weakened state and then she is hyperventilating after she gets away. My hands are small so I can't reach the corners of her jaw hinge to force it open. She is starting to get so afraid of me and afraid of her food that she won't eat anything.
Please don't tell me not to show her how upset I am. I had to euthanize our other cat in July and my husband died in October after a stroke and I am already an emotional wreck without this. I have no one to help me do this. I don't know what to do anymore. Only transdermal gel will work and this medication is not available in this formulation.
Is it time to just let her go? My husband had an advance directive and that decision was agonizing. Maggie is miserable and she is starting to be afraid of me and her food because both mean bitter-tasting medicine and trauma to her. I don't know what else to do anymore.