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How to read very shy new cat?

Wendy LyonWendy Lyon DublinMember Posts: 5
edited 2 May, 2015 in Behavior & Training
I've just brought home a young adult cat who is extremely shy and nervous. After less than two weeks, we've made a lot of progress together: he sleeps in my bed with me some nights, will come up to me to take treats out of my hand instead of insisting I put them down and walk away, and even slow blinked me a couple times yesterday! But he still won't let me touch him, rarely plays with me and spends a lot of time in his hiding place. He took a couple months to warm up to his fosterer, so I know I just have to be patient. But sometimes I feel like he is trying to tell me something and I just don't know what it is. It never happens when I'm in his safe room with him, but when I'm in another room, he often comes in and just sits or stands there and stares at me with those big eyes. If I approach him, he skitters off back to his hiding place, so it's not that he wants to play or cuddle or anything. And this can happen any time of day, so I don't think it's about feeding. I feel so bad that I don't know what to do, I'm worried I'm neglecting him in some way? Can anyone offer any advice?


  • Paula K-Paula K- New YorkMember Posts: 2,244
    edited 18 February, 2015
    You're doing fine. Some shy cats just take a long time to come around. The key is just patience. You'll see baby steps, like you have been. He may never be a lap cat but he sounds like he's on his way to trusting that he's in a safe place and can start relaxing. Hang in there - it's worth it!
  • Wendy LyonWendy Lyon DublinMember Posts: 5
    edited 19 February, 2015
    Thank you! He definitely is getting bolder, so I guess it's just a matter of time. According to his fosterer he became very cuddly once he overcame his shyness. I just can't wait for that to happen. I'm building up so many cuddles for him!|^|
  • Renee RyzRenee Ryz Member Posts: 2,164
    edited 24 February, 2015
    The more comfortable he gets, the more you will see him venture around. When he is looking at you, perhaps he is trying to get to know you better. Felix is very skittish, and it took months for him to feel relaxed. He is still a bit nervous, but I feel alot of his issues is due to chronic pain along with it. Try to play some classical music (if you like it) or something softer if you don't. Talk to him alot, or even read aloud when he is in the room with you. Just keep at it - the reward when they come to you is even more sweet, because of what they overcome. I think so anyways. :-h
  • Wendy LyonWendy Lyon DublinMember Posts: 5
    edited 2 May, 2015
    He's climbing on my lap now :xo: :xo: Thanks for the encouragement!
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