My cat Dream icicle (nick named DC) is a 2 year old, not neutered male. He has this tendency to startle easily. He can be lying next to you and the slightest motion or noise can spook him to running away and hiding. He is sweet as can be, but even walking into a room can terrify him. He won't come in ten feet of people that come over either.
He also is absolutely terrified on being picked up, even trying to put your arm next to him spooks him. It is near impossible to get him into the vet without either being shredded or being peed on.
I have two other cats, a nine year old male and a one year old female ,both fixed, that are not anywhere as nervous as he is. DC is alright around other cats, though the younger female cat does sometimes swat at him. DC usually just runs away and cries at me to save him. She is not the reason for his skittishness as he has been this way before she came into the household.
I just want to know how to help him lose some of his fear and nervousness.