Dear Catster reader,

Almost two years ago, we invested numerous resources and rebuilt the Catster community. With new hardware, software and personnel, we did our best to satisfy the many users who shared their thoughts, pictures, questions, and love for and of their pets with us and friends. It was a thriving community with many users. We hoped, however, there would be more like you.

Times and habits have changed and we are sad to announce that the Catster community will be closing down on July 20, 2019.

Catster magazine, and the associated social media sites are NOT shutting down. We encourage you to continue reading the content found in the pages of the magazine and the web sites, commenting through the mechanisms provided and sharing your ideas and comments with us and your fellow readers.

Instructions for accessing pet profiles were shared with everyone in 2017. The instructions can be found elsewhere within the forum. AFTER JULY 20TH, YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO ACCESS THIS CONTENT. And, effective immediately, we are no longer able to answer questions about the community.

Thank you for your support and we look forward to serving you through our magazine and website.


Making our kitties into friends?

My fiancee just brought her two cats (Female) to my apartment. I had one cat (Male) that's been with me for years. We kept her cats in the bedroom for several days and tried to introduce them to each other slowly. At this point we let the girls out most of the time. The problem is that one of her girls is kind of a bully. She has always been a bully. Her two kitties came from a house with 4 other cats (6 cats altogether) and she would bully them too. I am feeling very sad, because at this point my boy, Chase, is pretty much relegated to the cat tree in a corner of the apartment. He comes down to eat his food and drink water which is close to his tree. He won't use the litter box until we lock the girls in the room. I am very concerned. He seems to be warming up to the other girl kitty but the bully keeps him scared. The bully kitty has some "issues". I don't know if you'd say she's retarded or what but she seems to have mental issues and training is proving difficult. Please help! <3

Best Answer

  • Joy WaltersJoy Walters Member Posts: 9,276
    Accepted Answer
    In the animal world, when they live in a group, herd, whatever, there is a heirarchy of dominance and submission, the "Alpha/Omega" behavior. But, it sounds like your GF's cat is going overboard. It's hard to watch, I know, especially when YOU'RE cat is the one getting picked on. I don't know what makes you think the bully is "retarded", but if her behavior is truly that off-center, she needs to go to the vet for an exam to make sure she has no health issues, or if perhaps a short course of anti-anxiety meds and some behavioral counselling from the vet would work with her. Do not reinforce her dominance. Feed her last. Scoop her box last. Groom her last. Treat her kindly, but let her know that YOU and your GF are the Alphas of the family, NOT her. No hitting or shrieking, but when she approaches the male to intimidate him, you may want to aim a spray bottle over her head and say a sharp "NO!" Do check with your vet first, though, to make sure all is well with her.
Sign In or Register to comment.

Welcome to the new Catster Community!

Introduce the community to your pet with our Pet Profiles and discover how to use the new community with our Getting Started pages!

Howdy, Stranger!

It looks like you're new here. If you want to get involved, click one of these buttons!