Alright, I've tried to write this from my Kitty's point of view, but I just can't.. it gets too confusing
Here's the gist of it. My cat had 4 kittens. we kept 3, and gave one to my mother-in-law and grandfather-in-law. hey share a house on the same property as us.
I tried to encourage my MIL to bring the kitten back up now and then to socialize with her siblings, but she didn't bring her up for a good month or two. When she did come and visit, the kitten was intimidated and scared by the other cats and kept hissing, growling and swatting at anycat who came near.
The other kittens were confused at first, but eventually started getting hostile back.
My MIL stopped bringing the kitten up here (finally) because she realized that the problem wasn't going to fix it'self after a few minutes.
Right now, She comes up about once a month jut to get her nails trimmed--she's held the whole time and the other cats are encouraged to keep their distance.
This is a problem.... because my husband and I will soon be moving in with her. His grandfather is quite ill and needs nursing home care... but we can't afford that, two houses worth of bills and a mortgage. So, we're going to move in together, and rent to a friend of ours.
We have 5 fixed cats. 4 of which are going to be moved into the other cat's "domain".
I know that this going sweetly and smoothly is going to be impossible, but suggestions and ideas for things to help ease the pain are greatly appreciated.
to note: we have two seperate houses we can use... And each house has several rooms which CAN be used as 'kitty isolation wards'
we've considered exchanging households of cats for a few weeks to get every cat used to the scents of the others without ever having to actually FACE the other cats.. and.. feliway.. and.. well.. the problem is that this is a big, rather complicated feeling endevour.. and I want all of our cats to get along at least reasonably well...